I had a moment today where someone said something so ridiculous that I actually had to physically stop myself from speaking for a moment and get right first.
As you may have seen, it was grocery day today. I usually uneventful day, not worth posting a meme over or anything 😛
As I was checking out the checker commented on my healthiness of groceries. I replied that it was my normal meal prep day and no I wasn’t making anything special.
She quickly replied: “I can’t eat healthy. I just can’t.”
I bit my tongue and let that one go.
I get that not everyone looks at the world the way I do. I pushed away my “well not with that attitude you can’t” comment, and simply told her it has taken me over 5 years to get good at it, and that I used to feel the same way.
I told her I had lost over 100 pounds, but it really honestly started with grabbing Subway instead of Taco Bell. It was a learning processes, but I’m glad I did it.
Before I could get to the part about offering to help teach her she dropped this line on me:
“You’re so lucky, so many people can’t do that.”
I couldn’t even move. I had SO much to say in that moment, that I couldn’t say anything.
What in the actual…? ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?!
I tell you I’ve been at learning how to do this for over 5 years, and you’re going with I’m lucky?
And really come one, you CAN’T eat healthy? CAN’T? Maybe you don’t know how yet, or you’re not motivated, but don’t give me CAN’T.
Is this really the mindset that exists in the world? People who have success at something you struggle with are LUCKY? If you haven’t done it successfully yet, it’s impossible?!
If you know me, you know I’m huge on mindset, choosing the right language, and being solution oriented.
With my clients the words can’t, maybe, try, etc are completely banned. We make choices, we have priorities, and we own 100% of our lives, good or bad.
Now I TOTALLY realize she didn’t mean anything by it, but I honestly had to stop myself from reacting like a crazy person and never being allowed to show my face there again lol.
I wanted to sit her down and give her one of my famous passionate, cuss word filled, hand flailing, rants about priorities, and choices, and holding yourself capable.
I wanted to take her home with me, and teach her everything I know, and show her the ways lol. I wanted to give her 10 books to read about mindset.
I wanted to grab her by the arms and shake her I swear to God.
I didn’t. I paused, put on my best smile, told her if she ever wanted to learn she could find me on Facebook, and got out of the way of the person behind me in line. It wasn’t ideal, but it’s what I did.
So ….since I didn’t made a huge scene at the grocery store, I had to share this with you instead, hoping that maybe one of you might be feeling the way she feels and I can shake you instead LOL.
You know, feeling like you can’t, feeling like the people who are doing it have something you don’t, or just not knowing where to start (which is what I suspect she really meant) at all.
If that’s you, I just want to say that you CAN if you want to. The people who are doing it are not any better than you are, and most of us would be overjoyed to teach you how and show you where to start.
It comes down to priorities. Either you want it or you don’t, but it’s up to you.